A WOMAN….
(Author: Unknown)

They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.

They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up against injustice.
They don't take "no" for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.

They go without new shoes
so their children can have them.
They go to the doctor
with a frightened friend.

They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear
about a birth or a new marriage.

Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They have sorrow at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they think
there is no strength left.

They know that a hug
and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.

Women come in all sizes,
in all colors and shapes.
They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.

The heart of a woman is what makes the world spin!
Women do more than just give birth.
They bring joy and hope.
They give compassion and ideals.
They give moral support to their family and friends.

Women have a lot to say and a lot to give.

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS…

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

Few days back I got a chance to gone through this funny sort of thought provoking article according to which a person visited a government matchmaker for marriage and requested him for a help in looking for a suitable spouse. The officer asked him about the requirements and in reply he asked for a good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing girl. Willing to accompany him the whole day at home during his leisure hour, if he doesn’t go out. Telling him interesting stories when he need companion for conversation and be silent when he wants to rest. The officer listened carefully and replied him with a very good answer that “I understand you need television."

Well the moral of the story is that we all wish to have someone perfect in our life ignoring the fact that no one is perfect in this world neither us nor anyone else. We keep on expecting from others without thinking that what others can expect from us and what we are doing for them. I have seen several people around who spoiled their relationships just because of stupid reasons without looking into the consequences of their decision.

To have a strong, perfect relationship both parties have to struggle, both have to compromise, both need to have patience, both have to sacrifice and understand each other. Trust, love, care and honesty are other important elements that contribute a lot in any relationship to be healthy and perfect.

But besides this being an optimistic I also believe that sweet things are easy to buy,but sweet people are difficult to find. Life ends when u stop dreaming, hope ends when u stop believing,Love ends when u stop caring,love without condition, talk without intention, give without reason and care without expectation.......

Loneliness….

Loneliness is one of the toughest things to live with, people who have to live alone can only realizes the pain and can tell how difficult it is to be alone.

Loneliness is a condition where we can only depend ourselves for any strength or mental nourishment. It is a period when we may be completely alone or, although we are with others, we may feel alienated from them and unable to share our unique experiences with any other person at that at that specific moment.

Feeling lonely sometimes is natural but this is also a fact that humans need to socialize. "We need to have a sense of belonging, we need feedback from others, recognition, and a sense that there are others who care about us, understand us, and that we matter to them." Solitude is not always bad. We have all enjoyed being alone- with nature, or music, or books. It is when we feel depression, boredom, and meaninglessness then we have to act. Prolonged loneliness can become fatal if not dealt with as it can deprive a person of his will to live on.

TRUE LOVE…

I have written already several posts on this topic and always I feel that there is still something left behind. Love is a vast topic to talk about and can be defined in so many ways as per our experiences, thoughts & observations. Whoever fell in love feels that he/she is at the peak and in true love but most of the times when they have to face any problem in the journey of love or they’re been examine they failed. True love is not mean/selfish at all, expectations is something natural but I guess when we are truly in love with someone we don’t see what we’re getting in return of our love, we just keep on loving and caring that person no matter how he/she is responding us. True love is sacrifice, its trust, and there are no conditions in true love. We can like anyone on the basis of his/her good qualities that he/she holds but we love anyone without any reason, when we love someone we accept him/her along with both good and bad qualities, and we never judge our love ones. I always say love makes our life meaningful and beautiful but besides this is also a fact that love brings us pains as well that we bear happily, our both happiness and sorrows are attached/linked with that person.

Yesterday I was reading a book that was compiled of several true love stories and one of the story that truly inspired me and helped me to understand true love that I am sharing here as well. This story is basically written by a doctor and I am copying it here for you all as it is been written by him in his own words. Hope you all going to like it too. So here it is:

It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 a.m., when an elderly gentleman in his 80's, arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him look at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.

On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation. I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer' s Disease .

As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are? "

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, " She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is." I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, "That is the kind of love I want in my life."

True love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

An innocent smile makes the day bright
And an innocent thought makes the whole life peaceful
So with a smile start thinking bright and have a very good life ahead.
Keep Smiling……

Best Regards,
Samrina

Life's Mirror

There are loyal hearts, there are spirits brave,
There are souls that are pure and true,

Then give the world the best you have,

And the best will come back to you.

Give love, and love to your life will flow,

A strength in your utmost need,

Have faith, and a score of hearts will show

Their faith in your word and deed.

Give truth, and your gift will be paid in kind;

And honor will honor meet;

And a smile that is sweet will surely find

A smile that is just as sweet.

Give pity and sorrow to those who mourn,

You will gather in flowers again

The scattered seeds from your thoughts out borne,

Though the sowing seemed but vain.

For life is the mirror of king and slave,

This just what we are and do;

(Writer unknown)

3 BASIC THINGS IN LIFE…

In my view there are basically three main things around which one’s life revolves, that hold most importance in our life, which directs our life styles, that reflects from our habits & our routine. According to me these three things could be:

• Religion
• Relationships
• Career/work

Religion plays a guidance role in our life that guide us how to live life, how to deal with our problems and routine matters, who to ask for help & whom to pray, and much more. So we can say that to an extend our religious teachings are reflected from the way we carry our life and things related to it.

Second comes are our relationships that make our life meaningful and beautiful. Love, care, respect, trust, our emotions, & feelings all are attached with them. This is a fact that no one can live happily in isolation, we all need each other. Our happiness is incomplete and meaningless unless we have someone to celebrate with us and similarly in pain or during our depressions we need someone for care, for sympathy, for love, etc. These are all things that are human needs and no one can deny it. These relationships are the real beauty of our life. I always use to believe in these golden words ‘money cannot buy you happiness’, so very true because our feelings whether happiness or sorrows are linked with our relationships.

Third thing that holds importance in our life is our work, our career, or our job. This is also one of the most important elements of life as it is the source that defines goal for your life, make you effort, brings you internal satisfaction, provides us financial support to fulfill our and our love ones needs, reflects from your life style, and much more.

I don’t know to what extend I am successful in writing all this infect I believe still I lack in many things which I need to improve. May be I’ve missed various relevant points that needed to be added to the post and this is also possible that many of you don’t agree with my point of view as this is all that I have written is based on my own priorities, my thinking and few of the observations. Anyhow I will appreciate if anyone of you feel like to make any correction or add your own thoughts.

Regards,

Samrina

POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING

We all are known with the fact that both happiness and sadness are part of life but besides this reality of life this is also true that we human beings get depressed more easily and lose hope at small failures in life in comparison of getting happy & enjoying our achievements and success in life. It’s in human nature to look into the darker side of the picture first and think negatively that leads to depressions, loss of hopes, weakness and finally this result in further more failures in life.

I always use to think that whether happiness and sadness is in one’s control or not??? I thought a lot about it and have observed several people including my own self, various situations, read about it and have discussed this with several people around and the conclusion that I have made on the basis of all this is that 100% we can’t control this but yes to an extend this is in one’s own hands to be happy or depressed. The only thing that matters is our thinking that brings both problems and solutions in our life. I believe whatever happen in this world is with some purpose behind it and if we try to get and understand that reason we will never think negatively about it. We human beings have limited mental abilities and vision sometimes we can’t decide what is right or wrong for us, it’s only God who knows and can better decide for us. Sometimes we pray and effort a lot for something without knowing that whether this is right or wrong and when we dnt get it we get negative and depressed without thinking that may be that was wrong for us and God gonna bring us something much more better in place of it. Secondly sometimes God bring us failures to teach us lesson and make us stronger. I have lost my father in early ages of my life and whenever I miss him and feel depressed I always make myself remind that as I am a special person of God & He love me & trust me so He have selected me for this test and now I have to come up to His expectations and truly this thing help me a lot and take me out of depression.

Few days back I was reading Vincent Norman’s book ‘Power of Positive Thinking’ and in his book he have explained this very well with the help of different examples and true short stories. He wrote about a young sports man suffering from blood cancer breathing his last few breaths but he makes his team won match just because of his enthusiasm and positive thinking. Similarly he talked of several other true examples that helps us a lot to understand the importance and worth of positive thinking in our life.

Wish you all very best in life. Take care of yourself and all around.

Best regards,

Samrina

TRUE HAPPINESS....

I always use to think that what can bring us true, deep internal happiness and then to get the answer I have started observing & evaluating my own self first and then others. I don’t know to what extend I am right or wrong in writing this but today I am writing this post on the basis of my observations and views about types of people in this world, what can bring us true internal happiness and lots more at the back of my mind while writing this.

Basically there are two types of people in this world one ‘Career Oriented people’, people who value most their career, work, job, money, etc most in life and another type of people that exist in this world can be called as ‘Domestic people’ or ‘Family Oriented people’, people fall in this category value more their relationships, their feelings, love, etc in their life.

According to my observations people who value most their career, money, work, etc in life do achieve their career related goals and seems to be successful people in the eye of the world but in most of the cases I have seen that they are not happy and satisfied internally because while running after their career oriented goals & money they ignored & lost their relationships with whom they can share their success, their happiness, their failures, and their depressions. By this I don’t mean at all that other type of people I talked of i.e. domestic or family oriented people are the happiest people in this world but unless you have anyone around to share your feelings with, your happiness, your success everything is meaningless. Yes people will appreciate you, come for a time being to celebrate with you your success but at the end of the day you will be alone especially I have seen in case of failures mostly people are left alone. In such situation only your close relationships, people who truly love and care you are there to give you their shoulder to cry at, to wipe your tears and give you courage & moral support to move further in life.

Being career oriented is not a bad thing but here I talked of extreme cases, in my view both should be kept in balance in life infect relationships should be given more importance and value in life then of career because our all career related success is meaningless unless we have our love one’s to share our feelings & success.

Hope you all are doing fine in your life.

Regards,

Samrina

Why???

I have been told by several people around that I use word ‘why’ so frequently and most of the times I sound to be unsatisfied with the answers unless I get into detail of anything and get to know each & everything about that issue or topic. I was just thinking about it today and evaluating myself & trying to get the answer of it but again one more ‘Why’ came into my mind that why it is so? Is it become that bothering & irritating for others that they have started pointing me out now??

Well I guess we all have so many why’s in our life that always keep us all in search of their answers and that results in creativity, inventions, different theories, solutions to many problems, enhancement of knowledge and much more…..

If I particularly talk about myself than I accept that yes I am a curious person not for everything but yeah for things related to me or topic of my interest. It’s really hard to satisfy me because I look into things & matters so deeply and keenly. May be the reason behind this is that I am an extremely sensitive person and think bit more deeply than of other normal human beings but that doesn’t mean at all that I am anyone extra ordinary & always right & always reach the point I m seeking for. May be it’s not a good habit for others and bothering for them but I don’t think it’s a bad habit, what you think???

Regards,

Samrina

Life....

I got this beautiful poetry in a mail and I just loved it so here it is for all my bloggers, hope u gonna like it too..

I sat by a creek bank, just the other day
watching the water, carry a leaf away.

I thought to myself, is this the way life goes
it runs through my mind, no one knows.

You are here on earth, for just a little while
so learn to love and share a great smile.

People are many and friends are few
love and happiness, is being with you.

I thought about that leaf, as I watched it go
was it's purpose really served, I'll never know.

Then I thought about myself, holding my life steady
wondering when the river of life called, will I be ready.

Really can't answer that and I know it's true
but when I go, you know I'll leave loving you.

HI AGAIN...

Writing after such a long time, got so many things in mind to write but anyhow I am really glad n happy to get back into the world of blogging that I really missed in passed few months.

Well we all have different reasons of writing blogs few of us write for fun, few to share there experiences, knowledge, art n specialties God gifted them, personal problems n so on…. Initially I have started writing blog just for fun and got nothing as such in mind that why I am writing but as time passed and specially the gap came in between make me realized the importance and value of it. I have learned a lot from here and realized many things about life and about myself too. I met several people here with great mind and I myself truly feel blessed that God bring me in interaction with such people with beautiful thoughts. I know I am not a good writer at all and very weak in communication skills but still whatever I have written here I always get loads of appreciation & positive comments on it and truly that worked for me as a motivator & make me write further more. At times when I was really down I got moral support from my blog friends that helped me a lot to come out of my depressions.

In life we are surrounded by so many people & things and sometimes we dnt realize there importance in our life but as they are been taken far from us we start missing them & start realizing their value in our life. So we should always be thankful to God for each & everything thing He bring to us because everything in this world holds some importance & its just a matter of realization.

Best Regards,

Samrina

Three Things

I got this in a forward mail and found it worth sharing so here it is with some additions from myside:

Three things to be

- pure, just and honest

Three things to govern

- temper tongue and conduct

Three things to have

- courage, affection and gentleness

Three things to love

- the wise, the virtuous and the innocent

Three things to commend

- thrift, industry and promptness

Three things to despise

- cruelty, arrogance and ingratitude

Three things to attain

- goodness of heart, integrity, and cheerfulness

Three things that are required in any relationship

-trust, care and love

Three things that always help to succeed

-honesty, hardwork and motivation

Life...??

Once again I am here with the same topic "Life". God! I know I sound damn bore now. Sometimes I really feel that my thinking is so limited . I wish I could bring some changes in myself, in my thinking, in my writting, ......

Well I think Life can be defined in many ways. Few months back I shared here at my blog that life is an exam and whatever is been given to us by God and even not is just to test us and on the day of judgement we all are going to be rewarded for our good work and punished for bad ones. Sometimes I do feel that life is to judge and discover ourself that what we are actually? Throughout life we keep on analysing ourself in different phases of life and in every phase and in every relationship we found ourself different. Everyday we experience new new things and I guess we all change with time. Like life we human beings are also not certain and predictble.

According to some life is a journey towards death, for some life is fun, few define life as a punishment,and etc etc. We all have our own different defination for life and that based on our experiences, our thoughts, our studies and knowledge, and may be few other reasons as well to the list.

Prayers,
Samrina

Thanks!!

Sometimes its really hard to express our true feelings in words though I always beleive that true feelings never need words to be expressed but still I guess world need an expression and words are important sometimes because not everyone can understand you or knows what you got in your heart. Anyhow I have again started my philosophy here, actually I am just trying to express my gratitude for all the care and concern of my blog friends. I am truely grateful to Allah for bringing me so many loving and caring people around. I wish could also be able to come upto the expectations of all around me.

Once again my deep thanks for God and all of you for all your sweet words at my blog. Hope our all relationship will grow with time. Lots of prayers and best wishes for all of you. Take very good care of yourself and all around you. Lets us all together take our steps towards the friendship and peace in the world.

Best Regards,

Samrina.

Life....

Time to time I have expressed my thoughts and views about life here at my blog and today when I started again to write something about it I realised the fact that I am repeating same thing again and again with just a difference of wordings may be. Actually I guess I write all this off and on to help my ownself whenever I am down or depressed. It's reallity that no one of us is satiosfied with our life. No one can have a perfect life with everything, we all have to face both success and failures in life and pass through both happy and sad/depressing moments in life. With all this reality of life it's really hard sometimes to keep ourself positive and sometimes it's really tiring too. I think we all need a moral support of words time to time to keep ourself on positive track. Thats why I beleive no one can live or survive in isolation, we are nothing alone, we all need each other's support, and we all live in a chain. Sometimes we dnt realise the importance of someone in our life but a time came in life when we do realise the fact when we dnt have anyone around to share with and when we dnt have a shoulder to cry at. A sense of owning a relationship is I guess the most important and precious thing in life, this leads to hope, expectation, trust, love and care in our life.