Saturday, January 21, 2006

Just 3 Words
The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.
1. Let me help
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt theydo what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.
2. I understand you.
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways - that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.
3. I respect you
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that anotherperson is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. Thisapplies to all interpersonal relationships.
4. I miss you.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmationtells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider howimportant you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."
5. Maybe you're right.
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication when you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'mwrong". Let's face it. When you have an argument with someone, all younormally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriouslydamaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" canopen the door to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is understandable to theother person.
6. Please forgive me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people wouldadmit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up thathe has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he iswiser today than he was yesterday.

7. I thank you.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy thecompanionship of good, close friends are those who don't take dailycourtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

8. Count on me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essentialingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bondspeople. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady andtrue friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "youcan count on me."

9. I'll be there
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take asick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there."Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionallyand spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

10. Go for it
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform toyour ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that areunique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to followtheir dreams. Tell them to "go for it."
B o n u s : 11. I love you
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words: "I love you." Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling is gone.


Champ - Love Hound said...

Yaar! every time you post somethin' so Deep. What 're you doin' in Karachi? You should be in Islamabad to work with General as member of Think Tank. LOL!

Serious yaar! you think too deep 'n' the output on your blog is Great!

I wanna say somethin' about your last post, I hope you 'll not mind.

Some one asked about Hindu religion. Well their 're 4 Holy Abrahimic books but their 're 3 Abrahimic religions.

Muslims(we) believe that Shemual(Ismael) presented the Sacrifice for God to Amrahim. Christians believe that it was Isaac(Ishaq). Jews got 2 books Talmood(Torah) 'n' Zuiber(Zaboor).

Anyway, Hindues were granted with 5 Prophets time after time not with with books but with few Verses which 're mixed now in Geeta.

Brahama(Ibrahim) Hindues believe as first one sent to them. Ram(rameez), Lakhen(Leghoon) 'n' Arjun(Irjah) were 3 bothers in 3rd generation of Isaac. Later God also sent Krishna(Karion).

I'm sorry, I made a mess in your Blog but it was about Religion so I wanted to make clear. I hope you 'll forgive me.

God bless you.....

Nabeel said...

do you use all these words in your life? when was the last time you used one .. and which one (count I miss you and i love you out please)

Ya I'm not following wht boxing champ is saying here .. and ya why do you call it Abrahimic books? .. it's just Holy Books .. where does Abrahim come from?

samrina said...

Well thnx alot Khurram for enhancing our knowledge too, i mentioned in my comment that i dnt have much knowledge about the other religions so its really great to know all this from u. U really dnt need to b sorry friend. We all r here to share knowledge n our experiences n if one is wrong from us then its our resposibility to make the correction. No one is perfect n complete.
By the way thnx alot for the appreciation :) n i want to say one more thing that plz dnt use'yaar ' word for me i dnt like it, hope u understand.

Well Nabeel the one is use most frequently is 'I UNDERSTAND' n i dnt know exactly when last i used it but i always do understand or try to understand others problems or anything.

Champ - Love Hound said...

Samrina _ I'm really sorry, I 'll be careful about that word, It 'll not happen again. *Smiles*

Nabeel _ I don't say they 're Abrahimic books, GOD says it. In Koran in Sorah Mohamed(PBUH) God says "We giftd Talmood, Zuiber 'n' Bible to Abrahim, Coz we Love Abrahim. And we gifted Mohamed to Abrahim coz Abrahim Prayed for Him. And then we gifted Koran to (Holy)Mohamed(PBUH) coz He is last 'n' Most Loved One".

Our Master, Mohamed(PBUH) also called them Abrahimic Books.


Fahd Mirza said...

If your relation with your wife are estranged, then you can try these three words:

You are Lovely