Deep, dark, breezy night

Me and your memories…

Well thanks to Janice and Andrew who inspired me a lot to write such phrases. From my personal diary today for the very first time I am sharing something like that here at my blog just to test as per your responses that to what extend I am right and succeeded in writing such phrases..

Best Regards,
Samrina

JUST GIVE IT A THOUGHT…

I always admire eastern family system where people are bound together whether it’s any celebration or any trouble on any of the family member whole family stand as one to face the problem together but unfortunately with time we are loosing our traditions and cultural values on which we should be proud at. Its true changes are required with time but still one should have ability and sense to differentiate between good and bad changes before adopting anything in life.

Life is too fast these days hardly people can spare time for each other. Career and individual success is more important then anything else in life. Feelings, family, relationships, everything comes after money and career. By this I did not mean that everyone is same but to compete and survive in such scenario whether anyone want or not but they have to be like this not completely may be but to an extent at least.

If we look into deeply the consequences of this then we’ll get to know that the rising rate of depression, loneliness, tensions, and many other psychological n mental problems is somewhere this way of life style too. We have lost true happiness from our life infect today hardly people know the true meaning of happiness n success. Everyone is running after meaningless & for a time being success that bring them smiles just for few moments but if these so called successful people look into deep in their hearts n life they’ll get to know that how empty they are from inside, how alone they are that they don’t have any true, pure relationship in their life to celebrate or cry with them… I wish we understand this before its too late and true relationships n happiness totally vanish from this world...

Loads of prayers n love for everyone..

Best Regards,

Samrina

BUILD YOUR OWN HAPPINESS

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Dr. Mart‏in Seligman, father of the positive psychology movement and author of more than a dozen books (including Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life), says that "happiness-building exercises" can increase contentment because they can change a person's memory and perception of the past. To boost your own happiness factor, consider these three thanks-giving techniques:

Exercise One

THE THREE BLESSINGS

Try this every night, either in written form or as a mental exercise. Ask yourself what three things happened in your day for which you feel blessed, thankful and grateful. Then (this part is crucial) ask yourself what you did to make each good thing happen. Do this faithfully, and you’ll discover a shift in the way you go through your day, as well as the things that you choose to notice and amplify. When lying in bed at night if unfinished business pulls at your thoughts, ask yourself, “When was I at my best today?” or "What three things went right today and what did I do to make those good things happen?"

Results: Often people are unaware of their own role in good fortune. For example, someone cannot make a beautiful sunset, but they can choose to take it in (or not). This exercise is so simple it may feel a bit silly to many. However, what we find is that when people do the exercise, they are LESS depressed and much happier one month later, three months later and six months later. Dr. Seligman adds, "I now find myself during the day looking for things I can think about before I go to sleep. So I go around processing the day for things that will be fun to call up to mind at 11 p.m. It seems to change memory, attention and the way you go through the day."

Exercise Two

SAVOR A BEAUTIFUL DAY

Set aside a block of time-an hour, a half-day or a full day, to indulge in your favorite activities. Block that time on your calendar and do not let anything interfere. Next, carry out the activities just as you had planned. Savor each activity by deliberately concentrating on each moment and being thankful for it, by taking mental pictures or collecting physical souvenirs, by focusing on sharpening your perceptions and by attaining complete absorption in the activity, then sharing those moments later with others.

Results: This exercise is a pleasure/mindfulness experience that can help people who have acclimated to success and good fortune and no longer feel as happy as their life circumstances would seem to merit. It is also a useful balance for those work-driven individuals who move quickly from success to success without stopping to notice or absorb their lives. Dr. Seligman explains, "Savoring refers to our awareness of pleasure and our deliberate attempt to make it last and to make it more intense. This exercise is about taking time out to appreciate and indulge yourself in the things in life which give you pleasure. This is a fun and important step to achieving happiness."

Exercise Three

MEANING & POSITIVE SERVICE

Pass along the happiness ... think about the various aspects of life beyond yourself that would be thankful or benefit from the gift of your time and talents. Develop a plan for intentionally using one or more of your strengths in the service of this institution, group of people or idea.

Results: Meaning is defined as 'being attached to something that you believe is larger than yourself' ... like groups of underprivileged people, or ideals that you believe are worth fighting for. While it might be powerful to analyze service which you are already engaged in, the point of this exercise is to go beyond that to the intentional creation and execution of a new plan of strengths-based service.

Best Regards,
Samrina

Be Yourself

Why would you want to be someone else
When you could be better by being yourself
Why pretend to be someone you are not
When you have something they haven't got

Cheating yourself of the life you have to live
Deprives others of that only which you can give
You have much more to offer by being just you
Than walking around in someone else's shoes

Trying to live the life of another is a mistake
It is a masquerade; no more than a fake
Be yourself and let your qualities show through
Others will love you more for being just you

Remember that God loves just as you are
To Him you are already a bright shining star
Family and friends will love you more too
If you spent time practicing just being you

(Author: Ellen Bailey)

BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, 'Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck.' Then he asked, 'but when are my fingers going to grow back?' The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or you wish to take revenge. Think first before you lose your patience with someone you love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Best Regards,
Samrina

Beautiful Pakistan!!

Shangrila Valley


Kalash Children in local costumes


Lake Saif-ul-Maluk


Gilgit River


Gilgit Hunza Valley

Derawar Fort